We offer an anger workshop that’s fast, friendly and inexpensive. It’s based on one that David has already led more than a hundred times for more than a thousand participants. And it’s inspired by his previous experience of working in classes that were none of the above.
Members who complete David’s workshops usually say they like the changes they’ve made in their lives. Even better, they often say the people around them have noticed the change. And then the real surprise is when those other people begin to change too.
How do people change their response to anger so quickly?
Part of the answer is that the workshop is open only to people who seriously want to be there. Are you sure you’ve had enough of anger telling them what to do? If your goal is just to please someone else, or they ordered you to take an “anger management class”, this may not be what you’re looking for. But if you agree with them, if you’re here by choice, you’re welcome. Like we said, this is fast and friendly. Because everyone in the meeting wants to be here, no time is wasted.
Then all that’s left to do is these five steps:
1. Put the problem in perspective. Anger is normal. It’s all around us: you can see it in healthy people and in good natured animals. It gives us focus, energy and motivation. You’re not evil or sick. Feeling annoyed when things get annoying isn’t the problem.
2. Begin thinking outside the box. Acting angry is not the only response to feeling angry. It’s an option, but not the only one. To adapt an old saying: don’t get mad, get what you want.
3. Catch anger before it grows. Yes, sometimes you only have a split second. Yes, it can even build so fast that you think it happened instantly. People say “I couldn’t stop myself”. But you can learn to slow down that instant. The goal is for every workshop member to be doing this within one to three weeks.
4. Pick your battles and then be assertive instead of aggressive. What’s the difference? – we’ll talk about that. This workshop doesn’t teach members to be doormats, or teach them to be bullies. It’s about getting what you want without doing damage.
5. Practice thinking outside the box. In the final meeting participants talk about consolidating their new skill, and about the future. That’s usually a happy meeting. Bring your own pizza!